With the #shelterinplace , many couples are facing the reality of being around each other more often AND the opportunity to strengthen their relationship.⠀
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Some of you love all this time together, which is great.⠀
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For others, it may bring out more frustration, bitterness and anger. ⠀
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I want to free you with this truth:⠀
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𝐍𝐎 𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐋 𝐀 𝐂𝐄𝐑𝐓𝐀𝐈𝐍 𝐖𝐀𝐘.⠀
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𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳.⠀
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You may be saying, “Phoebe, I thought you said it was a freeing truth?!”⠀
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Friend, IT IS!⠀
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This means if you’re tired of feeling all those things, you don’t have to be feeling them anymore 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚.⠀
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And it won’t be dependent on what your partner does or doesn’t do. ⠀
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SEE! FREEING!!! Because the truth is, we can’t control our partners or anyone else for that matter! (Wouldn’t it be easier if we could?!) ⠀
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These thoughts are things YOU can take captive and give them to God to help you change them.⠀
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We have plenty of months ahead of us, so don’t rush into this with unrealistic expectations for yourself or your partner.⠀
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Just being aware of your own thoughts and taking them captive in each situation everyday is a good start, then remind yourself you’re feeling a certain way (frustrated, angry, hurt, impatient, bitter, etc.) BECAUSE of those thoughts (NOT because of your partner), 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒐𝒌𝒂𝒚.⠀
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No judgment for you. No judgment for your partner. You’re just noticing and observing for now. ⠀
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When you’re ready for the next thing, you can ask God for what He wants you to do next. ⠀
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If you are unsure what those next steps will be, be sure to check back for future posts or schedule your first free mini session with me so we can dive into it on a deeper level!⠀
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I truly believe we have a unique and beautiful opportunity to strengthen our marriages and relationships with this if we allow ourselves to.⠀
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Let’s make it happen friends!⠀
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