While you dream big and take steps toward that big dream, don't miss out on the small dreams, the small things that matter in immense ways, the small things that make a huge difference and cause an amazing ripple effect.
When you are dreaming for God and living out those dreams, it doesn't matter how big or small they are, because your focus will be on the BIG God you are serving and not the dream itself.
All of it will be beautiful and purposeful.
The truth is, we will ALL do something to our kids that will hurt them, disappoint them and leave scars, and EVERY generation will blame the other for something.
This is inevitable and part of the human experience.
When you work on healing yourself, you’re actually able to be a part of the healing of your parents and previous/future generations too.
It’s a beautiful thing that ripples.
One of the things we are intentionally teaching our kids to do, even at Annabelle’s age is how to handle their emotions:
💜 That it’s okay to feel them in a healthy way and space
💜 That no one can make them feel something (and that their emotions are from their own thoughts)
💜Building that failure and suffering tolerance in a life and world where it is inevitable, yet we try so hard to resist both, which cause more pain and suffering.
This will matter whether they encounter loss, trauma (which I hope they never will) health conditions or any other struggle in this world.
Who is with me on being more intentional of increasing our own tolerances in these areas as well as future generations to come?!
#overcomingwithgrace #breakingchains #breakinggenerationalcycles #emotionaltolerance
If having a son already didn’t bring out fears and trauma from my past, having a daughter totally completed the circle of all the fears, doubts and pressures.
Your own inner child returns at moments when they disobey or do things that make you even more paranoid of repeating generational things, and then the adult you is expected to respond in a way you weren’t taught. 🤔🤷🏻♀️
Instead, we respond in an emotional childhood-like way, therefore continuing the generational inability to healthily manage our mind and heart. 🔄❌
What to do?
1️⃣ First, is reminding yourself things don’t have to repeat. When you tell yourself this is just the way it is and this is just the way you are, you continue to give yourself permission for it all to repeat...and that simply is not true my friend.
2️⃣Second is reminding yourself it is a process and is a life-long one. Even when you reach a point of emotional adulthood, there is always a chance of anger, fear, doubts and other emotions coming out in unhealthy ways; it’s part of the human experience. So get finish lines out of your head because they bring about more frustration and other negative emotions that don’t serve you.
And 3️⃣ third, in the thick of experiencing these moments with your kids, remind yourself, “This can end with me. I’m working on it. What is it I am believing right now?”
Your belief will start to pour out other thoughts that you can work through that will lead to your healing as you give them to God.
Are you believing you’re a failure as a parent when they disobey?
Are you believing they’ll turn out as x, y, z if they don’t obey now?
Are you upset that they messed up your day and you’re seeking comfort and ease?
Are you concerned with image?
Whatever answers are at the other end, you’ll get to know more of the inner you that is upset or hurting and you get to decide what you want to do next.
And for this little face, my family, and God, they were and continue to be worth ALL the steps of healing.
#overcomingwithgrace #breakinggenerationalcycles #breakeverychain #traumahealing
